Protect It On All Sides
If you are "wanted" but do not feel "needed" by them; look in the mirror and put your emotions in check.
Too many marriage relationships have ended because of a spouse's sense of self-worth is fleeting. The desire to be needed overshadows their significant other's choice to want them as they are. You would think that many will be satisfied to be wanted as they are, but there are some that only find themselves to feel valuable when they are the source of another person's happiness. This makes longevity in marriage difficult because self-image becomes fragile when it is based on situations and not a firm choice. The choice to accept and receive that they are wanted. Wanted regardless of how they feel. Feelings can be fickle and deceiving. Feelings are important but must be validated with facts and not mere conjecture.
If you are "needed" but not "wanted" by them; observe their actions and see why you have them in your life.
Far too many times in marriages, people accept the minimum and allow their spouse to use them. Deep down they know they are a security blanket and nothing more. Being a provider is one thing; but what I am talking about is when one spouse only stays with the other out of fear of not "making it" in life on their own. Or desires another person's relationship because they believe the false image of social media and have convinced themself that they are missing out on something. These motives will eventually come to light and when they become clear, a choice must be made. Will you allow them to use you, or will you confront the issue and attempt to create a proper prospective for your relationship?
Marriage is a truthfully beautiful thing, but it is not an easy journey. The road becomes easier as both parties have the unwavering will to continue to choose each other. Emotions will sway moods but, in the end, the choice to overcome and unite will create a deeper love that will outlast the flesh.
Marriage gives the freedom to explore the depths of another person. Do not let the world convince you that the depth of your spouse is shallow and unworthy of the adventure. Marriage is sacred and is the most attacked institution known to mankind. Keep it safe because it is worth the fight.
